• Lex Ellis (he/she/they)

How to Set Boundaries: Start with Yourself

Coming back to the boundary board, it's a good idea to start with boundaries that are with yourself. Starting out with boundaries with yourself will help you practice saying "no" without the possible confrontation of another person. You need to practice holding yourself accountable before expecting to be able to hold another person accountable.

To start, think of something small that you can begin with. Make the boundary with yourself and then think of a consequence for crossing it and a plan to follow through. For example, maybe you need to get more sleep, but you are in the mindset that you absolutely have to do a multitude of things before you can go to bed. Lack of sleep is affecting your menta