• Lex Ellis (he/she/they)

How to Set Boundaries



Understanding Boundaries

If you're anything like I am as a person, you're already uncomfortable at the thought of the word "boundaries." If you grew up in trauma and chaos like I did, your boundaries game isn't really where it needs to be. For me, the boundaries portion of DBT is so intense and complex. To help explain it, I've decided to make a short series of blog posts on the topic. So buckle up and get ready to get uncomfortable! Suppose you were raised in a chaotic environment for whatever reason. In this case, you likely do not have a good concept of healthy boundaries. The majority of your coping mechanisms for this developed out of complete necessity. In the process of unlearning any unhealthy ones, you'll also learn how to make healthy boundaries for yourself. No matter your upbringing and your past life, it's never too late to start fresh and begin making a new, healthy life for yourself. Boundaries are a necessary part of healing and maintenance. So, take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and get ready to do amazing things for yourself. It will be hard and scary, but it'll be amazingly worth it, and you won't regret your new boundaries in your new healthy life.