• Alicia Paz

DBT Is Hard- Here's What To Do About It

Let me start by saying DBT isn't for everyone. There can be a million reasons why this is true. Even as a fan of DBT, there have been times where I met with a student and we spoke about leaving DBT group. Sometimes there is a plan to return, sometimes it's not a good fit. That's absolutely okay. There are a lot of other treatment options out there. That being said, this is a post for those who want to continue with DBT.

Let's be honest; DBT is hard! I have never met a student who found it easy, or who found it immediately "took." Skill practice is hard and it takes a while to see a difference. Let's talk about why it can be uncomfortable and how to work to overcome the discomfort.

"It's new." DBT is changing core behaviors and beliefs which doesn't come naturally. Chances are you may not have used these skills prior so it's totally new.

"It feels robotic." DBT has a textbook and for in-person group, you often read from a book and follow a specific class format. The point of this is to provide structure because many of those in DBT need it to help achieve stability.

"It's so repetitive and boring." Yes, it is repetitive which can be boring. This may be the number one complaint I hear. Much like the robotic comment, it's done on purpose to really drill home the topic and skill.

"It's just not my thing." Like I mentioned above, it just may not be for you. This doesn't mean you didn't fail or drop out of DBT it means DBT didn't work for you.